Ever wonder what your man is thinking during those intimate moments ? How about what he thinks of your bedside etiquette ?

Here are a few common scenarios off the top of my head, where you could be going overboard:

“Would you like to come up for coffee ?”

So the date is over and he drove/walked you home. You kiss, and then you pop this question. Good move! Men love this question for the simple reason
of what it implies, and you will hardly ever find a guy who would say “no” to that.

BUT ! Do NOT follow it up with “My mom makes the best coffee you’ll ever have”.

Don’t ruin a perfectly good compliment

It’s makeout time, and he thinks he should say something. He’s trying to be sweet, so he keeps his mouth out of the gutter and says something along the lines of “You’re beautiful”. Okay so it might not be the best compliment you’ve ever heard, how do you respond? Two options among others:

“I know” - cute, confident..

“Yeah right” - Not so much…

“Kiss my neck”

There’s nothing wrong with giving a little bit of direction every now and then. In fact, most men like it when you give them hints. There is such a thing as “too much” though. Making us feel like we’re in the army and that we need to ask “permission to nibble on your ears”… probably not a good idea

“I’m so sexy you’re lucky to be here”

There’s nothing men, or at least this one, hate more than excessive arrogance. If we’re not complimenting your body, you should probably not be asking us things like “isn’t this the hottest pair of tits you’ve ever seen?” / “Don’t you feel so lucky that you’re touching this gorgeous ass ?”.

Also: Don’t ask how good a kisser you are, this is not high school anymore !

Scratching and moaning

There’s nothing men like more than a little moaning here and there during intercourse. It’s our way of getting feedback on a job well done. You might be a bit more vocal, and choose to express your desires verbally sometimes, and that might be okay. But if your reference for these matters is porn, and you’re going to be screaming your lungs out no matter what we do, why don’t you leave us out of it altogether ? It looks like you could do just fine on your own..

Cigarette moments are not “ask me” moments..

Post-coital moments are notorious for encouraging sharing, and while this might be a good time to enhance the connection with your man, it is certainly not a good time to push for commitments. Stay away from the ever so tempting “When am I going to see you again ?”.

Keep it for later.

.. and they’re certainly not drama moments

Here’s a perfectly good way to ruin a man’s moment: Unload all your drama. While I’m still smoking my cigarette, I don’t care about your boyfriend, your husband, your father, your girlfriends or any of your sources of daily headache.

That shit can wait.


Tags: Do's And Don’ts Of Intimate Relationships