Talking dirty is an art form. It may seem a little too much for some, while it simply isn’t something that others usually do. However, doing it right can actually fire up the bedroom and perk up a flagging relationship. A person wishing to learn how to talk dirty is always faced with the dilemma of where and how to start. Even nowadays, some people still find it difficult to talk about what they want when it comes to sex. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship, and the secret to mind-blowing sex.


The most important golden rule in talking dirty is to know your partner’s acceptance level first.

It is always a must to test the waters in a relaxed conversation when initiating something new into lovemaking, unless you want to get slapped and kicked out of his/her life or your partner reaching for the phone to call the nearest police station! By getting the idea into your partner’s head, he/she will most likely ponder upon it and possibly talk about it with friends to ask for their opinion and past experience about it. However, not all may be comfortable with it, so when your partner flatly snubs the idea, it is best to just drop it.

Successfully adding dirty talk into your sex play takes creativity and sensitivity-the point here is to turn the other person on, not make him/her squirm or cackle in amusement.

Reading an erotic story is one way to warm up one’s partner. The internet alone has an ample supply of incredibly erotic stories which can be downloaded for free. There are erotica magazines that may also be a good choice to read. You can both practice your dirty voice while spending fun time together. Whether it leads to sex or not is well, up to you.

Swearing is undeniably a major part of our culture, as it is often used for effect and expression in just about anything we say. It also works the same when talking dirty in bed, because the filthy words have quite an impact on the act that is being performed: it urges on the rawness of the sexual act, and can in fact bring out another side of the person.

If your girl is the demure and sweet type who helps out at the church social every week, unleashing her wild side in bed can be a real aphrodisiac for both of you. Learning only a few phrases in French may not help much if you plan to travel to France, but it can sure do a lot in making him/her aware of how electric you can be. English may be the universal language, although not the most romantic one there is. French, Italian or Portuguese sounds a lot better, maybe because it sounds different and the words are so delightful to listen to when spoken with sophistication and finesse.

Words in a foreign tongue quietly and silkily whispered to one’s ear during sex is undoubtedly titillating, despite what it is being said. However, it is always better to whisper sexy nothings to one’s partner than telling him/her that you ate fried lizards in Spanish.


- Do practice sounding sexy. For sure, you have that sexy voice within you that is just waiting to be unleashed, so try to explore that and make sure you don't sound so awkward. Practice when you are alone and listen to your voice.

- Do learn to say the nastiest words you've thought of during your lovemaking. Men love to listen to women enticing and teasing them, especially if you sound like you can't resist them.

- Do suggest. Men love to see the wild side of women in bed. Especially if you are the type that swears or say something nasty, he will often find it wild and sexy if you do when you make love.

- Do not be in a hurry. Take it slow. Especially if you are just learning, you have to start slow with the dirty talking. For sure, you don't want to make your guy wonder if he is with another woman.

- Do not use technical or medical terms in your dirty talk. These are not sexy and in fact, these can be great turn offs.

- Do not start talking dirty without practice. Especially if you are new to it, talking dirty to your partner in an awkward and nervous voice may not be effective, so try to practice it when you are alone and learn a few tips from experts.

- Do wait for the right timing. For some, they may talk dirty right before the sexual act as a part of foreplay, but for some women especially those who are new to telling nasty things, they may want to wait until everything is intense to utter those wild dirty talks. This way, it will intensify both of your feelings and will also make it more real and not something practiced.

Talking dirty to your partner is indeed a good thing to do to make turn your partner on, Most importantly, this can also be good for you to get the satisfaction you want from lovemaking as the more you can become comfortable with talking dirty, the more you can suggest and tell your partner what satisfies you in your lovemaking.


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